LOVE WILL KEEP US TOGETHER

Hello fellow bloggers.... Today is a great day. I am celebrating 4 wonderful years with my amazing husband. In commemoration of our time together I have decided to talk a little about our relationship and things that help me continue to love and serve God and my family as a loving (step) mother and wife. I am so happy with my relationship with God, my husband, daughter, and family. I wanted to share a few thoughts today about my relationship. Here is my guide to love (for what its worth).

1. Couples who pray together stay together. This is the most important thing i live by. Without loving God and yourself you cannot possibly love another. The closer I am to God the closer i am to my family.
2 You said for better or worse (we all have bad days sometimes bad days can be bad weeks but your in it to win it) the best advice i ever got was from a lady who had been married for 62 years. She said "when you get really mad and you feel like you just cant take it any more "LEAVE" (pause...) take a walk outside give your self some time to cool off and him too then come back and calmly talk it out"... It works like a charm.
3.Whats mine is yours... There is nothing that i keep to myself my husband is my best friend and what is his is mine and vise versa don't ever feel someone holds more power because they make more money etc... the best relationships are those where you can support each other without conditions.
4.Money is the root of all evil... whether your rich or poor money is 80%  of all arguments. Be open about money cause it will destroy.
5.Be prepared to love openly... let me explain this one... It is especially important because one thing i never imagined was marrying someone who had a child. It takes someone with amazing strength and dedication to love and raise someone else's kid unconditionally. I love my stepdaughter with my whole heart she IS my own and i will lay down my life for her but I will admit its not easy... Before you enter a relationship with someone who has kids make sure your ready to commit to it... Also when you Marry someone you marry their family too... sometimes you have to agree to disagree but remember RESPECT  your elders at all times.
6. Time for yourself... make sure not to loose yourself in the relationship... I know this first hand spend a little time getting to know YOU.
7. Stop being a drama King/queen... Quit focusing so much on emotions and feelings. don't set such high expectations. Eventually those things fade. Instead of worrying about how your spouse is going to make you feel, which you have no control over, take control of your own actions. You have to make a conscious choice in marriage to no matter what that you will love and serve God, your spouse and your children etc. (read screwtape letter 18).

To be continued as we grow in our relationship :)

Well I hope you enjoy my lessons  HAPPY ANNIVERSARY love :)

Family Transformation Coping with Learning Disabilities

I know its been ages but the last 4-5 weeks have been really wild for me vacations, preparing for school ect... But back to the swing of things.
  Recently Lexi got her results from her testing for a learning disability (which was brought about because of her lagging mathematical comprehension) which as I thought resulted in her having a mild case of ADHD and a very short term memory problem along with some emotional distress. In an effort to boost our relationship with her Mother and encourage healthy living we decided to meet with her mom to discuss her keeping up with her schedule she holds at our home. Much to my surprise she was very willing to cooperate and was keen on doing whatever it took to salvage Lexi's childhood. I am happy to report that we are continuing to support each other and Lexi and adding a few routines to our ever so hectic days. I have compiled a list of new things that we are practicing in order to help Lexi cope with her disability.

Waking up 30 min earlier every morning to cook breakfast instead of grabbing something as we rush out the door.
Doing study as a team instead of just one parent helping at a time
Eating dinner together at the table as a family and discussing our days (This is how i grew up but not my husband... i finally got him on the bandwagon)
And spending a little extra time doing something fun every night before bed to encourage family bonds

I am really excited about these new additions to our daily routine and I will let you know her progress ....

GOD IS GREAT